When friends, family members, and even the media call on you to be more confident, it comes as no surprise that most people flounder.  
 
Confidence, after all, is a term encompassing an incredibly large breadth of mental and physical attributes. It’s not something you can simply pick up at a local store.  
 
Yet when you ask these proclaimers of this way of thinking how to achieve this transient state of being, they stutter, unable to even define a way to answer all your woes. 

Finding confidence is all on you 

 
 
 
Finding confidence, much like success and happiness, is all on you, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. The mere fact that thousands of people all over the world have mastered this ideology is proof enough that you can do it, too.  
 
Like many, though, you are no doubt unsure of where to even begin. How does one even define a concept that varies from culture to culture, from time period to time period? To do this successfully, you need to first understand what confidence is in your own terms and then reach out to teachers for guidance. They have dedicated a lifetime to studying and practising the art of building self-confidence as a means to reach a fulfilled, healthier, less anxious lifestyle. 

Hurting Your Health 

Learning confidence is an important aspect of life many do not associate with health. Instead, it’s touted as a way to snag a job or perform well in front of a group of strangers during a presentation. However, lacking the belief in your ability to take on tough challenges and succeed leads to self-destructive tendencies. 
 
 
Instead of believing you have the power to work out, you avoid exercise altogether. Instead of assuming the presentation will go great, you admit defeat before it even happens, mentally extrapolating every negative outcome that has not and probably will not occur. This then spirals into anxiety and panic attacks. 
 
While stress evolved as a natural response to save us from predation when we were still hunter gatherers, it has since fallen to the wayside. Instead of being produced as a means to survive, it activates for every minor altercation over the course of the day. For suffering anxiety, this means it remains switched on, flooding the body with hormones that get the blood pumping and energy rates skyrocketing.  
 
If not calmed down, this eventually blows up into full blown anxiety or a panic attack, causing you to become short of breath and feel an impending doom. Research has found that sustained high levels of this inevitably lead to arrhythmias, heart attacks and death. It can even exacerbate current problems, like headaches.  
 
Some turn to smoking or drinking as a way to cope. Those that are sick take longer to recover. Basically, undue anxiety and stress in today’s world are nothing if not fatalistic tendencies according to the (American Psychological Association, 2013). 

Secrets of the Subconscious 

To deal with the numerous problems accumulated through time, many turn to therapy as a way to rationalise their anxious feelings by trying to talk down the childish demands of the subconscious—the part of our brain Western society has been at odds with ever since Freud revolutionized the field of Psychology.  
 
Modern techniques would have you try and beat the subconscious into some form of submission, but this is hardly beneficial considering it is such an integral part of the mind altogether. A major reason this negativity evolved is the fact that the subconscious is our means of survival. It is this portion that triggers mental duress during fight or flight situations and, therefore, is responsible for the harmful implications of continued stress (James, 2013). 
 
We can then extrapolate from this that the subconscious is connected to confidence because belief in success reduces anxiety thus reducing the risk for heightened panic attacks. The belief system of the subconscious we grow into develops during a time we have little control over—our childhood. As helpless young, we need to establish very quickly right from wrong in order to ensure our survival, looking to our guardians and trusting everything they say. Once we mature, the subconscious quiets down but never fully goes away. This explains why when you are faced with a trigger, emotions come out stronger than logic, creating outbursts we try to avoid. It’s merely our child trying to cope with something it can’t understand. 

Behind the Scenes 

Say, for instance, you were teased by your parents about your drawings as a child. They probably only meant to joke but your subconscious took it as a warning that drawing leads to ridicule, forcing you to put it away to avoid feeling shame.  
 
As you grow up, you decide to take a building design class. For one of the projects, they want you to draw your own building. It can be anything you want. Immediately, your eyes dilate, your heart beats faster, your palms sweat and before you lay visions of the class and teacher mocking you or failing you. You can’t sleep anymore because you’re so anxious.  
 
Eventually it degrades into a panic attack and you bolt out of the classroom on the day of your presentation even though nothing bad actually happened  

The Perfect Programme 

The real secret lies in delving down into the emotional root of the problem. All too often, childhood influences how we mentally treat ourselves in adulthood. If we were surrounded by parents who were anxious and unable to deal with day-to-day stress healthily, we would have grown up exhibiting these same behaviours because we would never have learnt alternative ways of expression (Seltzer, 2008).  
 
The same damaging effects could have similarly occurred when having to deal with difficult situations such as dealing with bullying in school, a teacher or person of authority giving us mixed messages and causing us embarrassment, divorce of parents, abuse or even bereavement not properly dealt with.  
 
On other occasions, some events can also be very trivial and minor to the eye of the adult, but they can also make a long and lasting impression. Other times what influences are other experiences as adults. With this in mind, it’s safe to say the true beginnings of reduced stress lie in your ability to admit something is wrong. Without some sense of self-awareness, progress cannot be made.  
 
This is what the Beat Anxiety and Gain Confidence Programme is honed on. Its main idea addresses the scientifically validated fact that stress and anxiety come from more than just an overly active fight or flight response. It targets the primal fears and emotions that led to this lifestyle and lowered confidence.  
 
Once the identification is complete, these emotions can potentially be thoroughly neutralised, leaving you with a blank slate on which you can begin building a healthy level of confidence fortified by positivity. Because the anxiety will be targeted and negated, this inherently aids you in recovery from the physical ailments brought on by such prolonged mental abuse. 

The BAGC and FREEDOM Frameworks - Your Path to Freedom 

 
 
Through personalised strategies and expert guidance, you'll learn to: 
 
Identify and challenge anxious thoughts: We'll teach you to recognise your "what if" patterns and replace them with more balanced, realistic assessments. 
 
Develop resilience in the face of uncertainty: You'll learn techniques to build mental toughness, allowing you to bounce back from setbacks and face challenges with confidence. 
 
Enhance emotional intelligence for better leadership: Discover how to understand and manage your own emotions, as well as those of others, for more effective leadership. 
 
Cultivate a growth mindset that turns challenges into opportunities: We'll show you how to reframe obstacles as chances for learning and growth. 
 
Implement practical tools for stress management and peak performance: You'll gain access to a toolkit of evidence-based techniques for managing stress and optimising your mental performance. 
 

The Journey to Freedom 

 
 
 
Help comes to those who seek it out. You are stronger than you realise. It’s time to take charge and achieve the full realisation of who you are and what you are capable of. It’s time to find your inner confidence through the B.A.G.C 6 System and the F.R.E.E.D.OM Framework. 
 
 
 
Together, these frameworks provide a comprehensive approach to overcoming blocks and unlocking your full potential as a leader and individual. 

The Investment in Your Future 

Investing in this programme is more than just investing in a set of skills - it's investing in your future self. Imagine the possibilities that await when anxiety no longer controls your decisions. Picture yourself leading with confidence, inspiring your team, and achieving goals you once thought were out of reach. 
 
The cost of not addressing your blocks can be far greater than the investment in overcoming it. Think about the opportunities you might miss, the relationships that might suffer, and the personal growth that might be stunted if you remain trapped in a cycle of "what ifs". 
 
Don't let "what ifs" hold you back any longer. Imagine the possibilities that await when anxiety no longer controls your decisions. It's time to rewrite your story and step into a future of confidence, clarity, and success. 

Your Next Step 

 
The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Your step towards freedom from anxiety starts here. Get in touch to learn more about our transformative online coaching programme and take the first step towards true freedom from anxiety. 
 
Remember, the question isn't "What if I fail?". The real question is, "What if I succeed beyond my wildest dreams?". Your future self will thank you for having the courage to find out. 
Our B.A.G.C - Beat Anxiety and Gain Confidence System offers instant results. 
If you are a high achiever our F.R.E.E.D.O.M framework is an invaluable tool to develop emotional intelligence and success 
Or if you are looking for Strategic Career Advancement the S.C.A.L.E.S is perfect for you. 
 
 
 
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